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Surprise! Even though vegans believe in walking a path of peace, not all of them know how. In fact, some of them can be downright cranky. You know the ones. They spend a lot of time complaining about how things are and too little time promoting and working toward positive action.
But wait? Didn't I just say in the last post that I accept all vegan friend requests on Facebook? Does that mean that I befriend the cranky people too? Well, sort of. It's a tricky business. I'm selective. Plus, I don't always keep the friends I make. So, how do I presort the mean and nasty vegans from the perky, positive ones?
The group or page aura is telling. Nevertheless, it's not the be all, end all of choosing friends. I belong to some vegan Facebook communities that are just for venting. Others are all about love, peace and harmony. That's because, let's face it, no matter how sweet you are, living as a vegan can be frustrating at times. Those venting communities are necessary.
No matter the aura of the group, you can find positive friends there, based on the nature of their comments or posts. Of course, there is always a chance that you will befriend someone who turns out to be someone you do not wish to associate with.
Another sign that your vegan acquaintance may not be friend material is the tone of their own websites and pages. A lot of vegans have one, the other or both. Some are strictly to promote veganism. Others have nothing to do with it. Either way, you can tell a lot about someone by the vibes you get from their personal sites and pages.
If there's a lot of angry bashing of non-vegans on there, you might want to steer clear. Even vegans can be bullies. Sure, some nice vegans say negative things about non-vegans. It's human nature to retaliate for years of torment. I'm talking about the ones that only say bad things, never good.
Meanwhile, here's a funny thing that bugs me. I don't really warm to vegans or anyone else who is all sunshine and flowers, do you? It just feels like they're hiding something. Why? Because it's also human nature to be grouchy once in a while.
Coming up: How do you deal with vegan Facebook friends you wish you didn't have?